Shannon Bernsten, AMFT
Hi, I’m Shannon. I am a Bay Area based therapist, and I am excited to be working in practice with Sherna Perez. I see clients in person in San Francisco and Oakland, and virtually throughout California.
I believe therapy works best when it feels human - thoughtful, collaborative, and grounded in genuine connection. My approach is warm, relational, and curious, with the goal of creating a space where you can slow down, reflect, and better understand yourself and your relationships. Therapy with me isn’t about fixing you, it’s about making sense of your experiences, noticing patterns, and creating meaningful, sustainable change.
I’m particularly interested in how our experiences shape the way we relate to ourselves, to others, and to the world around us. In our work together, we might explore the patterns that keep showing up in your relationships, the emotions that feel hard to name or sit with, or the ways anxiety, self-doubt, or past experiences may be influencing how you move through your life today. I try to move at a thoughtful pace, balancing support with curiosity and gentle challenge at times.
I work with adolescents, individuals, and couples. In my work with adolescents, I focus on creating a space that feels safe, respectful, and collaborative, helping kids and teens navigate anxiety, identity, friendships, family dynamics, and the complexity of growing up. I also work closely with parents when helpful, while maintaining a strong commitment to the adolescent’s sense of trust and autonomy.
With individual adults, I often work with thoughtful, self-aware people who may feel stuck in familiar patterns, whether that’s anxiety, relationship challenges, perfectionism, or difficulty trusting themselves. Many of my clients are looking not just for symptom relief, but for deeper understanding and more meaningful change.
With couples, I focus on helping partners slow down and better understand each other, particularly during moments that tend to lead to conflict, disconnection, or hurt. Together, we work toward improving communication, increasing emotional understanding, overcoming obstacles, and creating more supportive and connected relationships.
I also have experience working with families navigating separation, divorce, and high-conflict dynamics, including family court-related work. In these situations, I take a thoughtful, neutral, and child-centered approach, with the goal of supporting emotional wellbeing and helping families move toward more workable and stable relationships.
My style is engaged, collaborative, and down-to-earth. I value authenticity in therapy, I’m warm and approachable, while also thoughtful and intentional in the work we do together. I believe therapy should feel like a place where you can be honest, curious, and even a little imperfect, while still feeling supported and understood.
I became a therapist because I’m deeply interested in people, how we grow, how we make meaning of our experiences, and how relationships shape us over time. Whether you’re navigating a difficult period, feeling stuck in familiar patterns, or simply wanting to understand yourself more deeply, therapy can offer a meaningful space to explore and grow.
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